Lot 35: A Mirror Fogged with Dew

Readings by situation

Single

A mirror fogged with mist makes it hard to see anyone clearly, including yourself. The lot reminds you that when you are not sure what you want in love, it is easy to choose the wrong person. Wipe the mirror first; understand yourself, and the path to someone else will become clear.

Advice: Write down the five values you most prize in a partner and three things you cannot accept.

In a relationship

You may be hoping your partner understands things you have not clearly said, or even fully understood yourself. A fogged mirror makes misunderstandings easy. Look into your own heart first, then share in very specific terms.

Advice: Instead of saying your partner does not understand you, clearly state one specific thing you need them to do.

Secret crush

You love that person, but you may be loving an image you painted yourself. A fogged mirror makes us see others through a mist of expectations. Understand yourself and that person more clearly, and you will know whether these feelings are worth pursuing.

Advice: Get to know that person through real conversations rather than only through social media or what others say.

About an ex

Looking back at an ex through a fogged mirror, it is easy to see only the good or only the wounds. The lot advises you to wipe the mirror and view that relationship fairly. Once you see clearly, going back or letting go will both be decisions made with a clear heart.

Advice: Make two columns, the good things and the things that hurt you in the old relationship, then reread them calmly.

Marriage plans

Before marrying, each of you needs to know clearly what you hope for from marriage. The lot shows some expectations have not been voiced, like a mirror still fogged. Once you see your own hearts and each other's clearly, the road will brighten.

Advice: Each of you write down how you picture life after the wedding, then swap and read each other's.

AdvicePolish the mirror of your heart, and love's path will appear clearly.